There’s a ton of negativity around us right now. You can’t get on Facebook without seeing negative thoughts and comments. Personally, I hate Facebook. If it weren’t for keeping in touch with family, I wouldn’t have one. I think it’s extremely hypocritical of adults to chastise younger generations about how they’re always on their phones and rant about how social media runs our lives when adults are constantly on Facebook, getting in fights with others in the comments section and bullying each other based on beliefs.
This is why I came up with 7 ways that help me be happier in hopes that it helps you as well.
I’m notorious for thinking the most random things in this life are hilarious. I know there are always incredibly frustrating situations in life but find the funny parts of your situation and laugh it off! You’re going to think back on this moment in a week, a month, or even a year and wonder why you spent so much time moping around about it.
2. Find joy in the little things
I’ve talked a little bit before about how anxious of a person I am so it’s important for me to find things that make me happy because it takes my mind off of things and relaxes me. The thing is, shopping makes me extremely happy but if I did it all the time, I’d be broke. So naturally, you have to find other things. For example:
I love the smell of wet concrete, especially after a rainstorm in the summer
I love the smell of fresh cut grass and the morning air
I love walking into a cool house after being outside in the heat
I love curling up in bed with a book or watching a movie when there’s a thunderstorm outside
I love when everything makes me giggle and I can’t stop laughing
I love waking up on my own instead of with an alarm clock
Make a list of all your favorite things that make you happy! Acknowledging these things will bring you joy even if there isn’t a thunderstorm outside right now that you can enjoy.
3. Don’t stress about things outside of your control
This is such a major one for me because there’s a lot of people in my life that stress so much about things that they literally couldn’t change even if they wanted to. Why get angry or bothered about this stuff? For example, the weather. People that are completely upset because it’s scorching hot outside… Get over it! Unless you’ve figured out a way to change the weather with a machine that you should so kindly share with mankind, it is absolutely & completely out of your control.
If I can’t personally do anything to fix it, there’s no point in obsessing over it.
4. Be the bigger person
This really shouldn’t be something that needs to be defined but certain people seem to have a problem grasping this concept. Grudges, drama, hatred, revenge… all of this breeds ignorance. You can’t say that you’re maturing as a person and still be participating in these things. In 50 years, I don’t want to look back on my life & only remember all the people that hurt my feelings or that I disliked. I want to remember all the fun things I did with the people I loved. That brings me to #5…
5. Don’t spend time with people you don’t like
In 2013, I lost one of my really great friends. It was devastating because it was the first loss I had ever experienced and we were all so young. One of the things I realized when that happened was that I wanted to spend more time with those I loved, and less time with those I didn’t. I realize that there are times where you can’t avoid this but when it’s under your control, you should spend time with the important people that support you and are positive beings in your life. I think one thing you learn as you get older is who is really around because they want to be & not because they need something from you.
6. Treat yourself regularly
There are months where there are so many bills to pay or unexpected expenses come up that you’re so stressed out & just feel overwhelmed. Whenever this happens, I like to plan out a little treat for the next month or next paycheck to make myself feel better. You don’t have to spend a lot of money & sometimes, the things that make you feel better don’t require any money. Maybe taking a sick day & spending a day at home on the couch is your treat or maybe finally getting to take a long bath & read a good book is your treat. Whatever it is, don’t forget that you deserve a little break too.
7. Don’t see happiness as a destination
This is the one that gets me every time. “If this would just happen, I’d finally be happy.” How many times have you actually gotten what you wished for and still felt like something was missing? As much I as get caught up in what’s not happening in my life, the best times are when I forget all about it and focus on what’s happening at the moment. It’s so much easier to enjoy the ‘now’ when you’re not obsessed about the ‘later’. This is much easier said than done but I like to consciously make an effort to be grateful for the things I do have and that helps me cut out the future wishing.